Receiving the news of breast cancer can feel overwhelming. Many find themselves struggling to process their feelings while also figuring out how to share this new reality with the people they love most.
From explaining to children and grandchildren why treatment days are difficult to deciding whether to chronicle their journey on social media, patients face uncharted territory.
Carolyn Wallace, a Wellstar oncology nurse navigator, understands these challenges and urges patients to take a deep breath before deciding how to share the news.
“Don’t feel pressured to share your diagnosis with others within a specific timeframe,” she said. “It often takes time to come to terms with a breast cancer diagnosis. Feeling overwhelmed, frightened or sad is normal.”
The process of sharing your cancer journey takes courage, but self-compassion is key. Experts encourage patients to start by confiding in those closest to them before expanding their circle as they feel comfortable.
Finding quiet moments amid the noise of advice and opinions is crucial.
“Your journey is unique,” Wallace said.
Support groups can provide connections and emotional support, while family and friends often offer much-needed love and care. For those overwhelmed by the volume of communication, free websites can help streamline updates and reduce stress.
Open and honest communication is especially important when children are involved. Kids are perceptive and may sense when something is wrong. Wallace recommends explaining the diagnosis in age-appropriate ways to build trust and prevent misunderstandings.
“Practice the conversation beforehand to ease your mind,” she said. “Reassure children that it’s OK to feel the way they do and answer their questions honestly. Let them know routines may change, but that they will still be cared for.”
Resources like age-appropriate books, camps and support groups are available to help children cope. Organizations such as Wonders & Worries, Pickles and Bright Spot Network offer free support to families preparing for these conversations.
“While breast cancer presents many challenges, open communication and leaning on loved ones can make the journey more manageable,” Wallace said. “Remember to allow yourself grace, accept support and embrace the love surrounding you.”
